There are times when people and situations can cause us to become agitated or feel strong emotion and these can that get in the way of Centering Meditation. In my experience, it always pays to deal with the emotion before getting back to Centering, otherwise my focus is scattered and instead of being part of the flow of the universe, Centering Meditation can be the longest, boring, and painful silence.
For example, the other day, I was dealing with a sometimes-difficult tenant and I had to make clear what extra work we would and would not be doing in her apartment. Her response was one of shock but somehow, I already knew that that was coming. After the interaction and for some reason I had an old negative feeling of fighting my battles.
For some reason, the interaction with the tenant, my husband standing there but offering no backup or feedback flipped me into a flashback situation of feeling emotionally abandoned, unworthy and fighting my own battles alone. Needless to say, the communications with husband were frosty for the rest of the day.
According to Wikipedia A flashback, or involuntary recurrent memory, is a psychological phenomenon in which an individual has a sudden, usually powerful, re-experiencing of a past experience or elements of a past experience. These experiences can be happy, sad, exciting, or any other emotion one can consider. The term is used particularly when the memory is recalled involuntarily, and/or when it is so intense that the person “relives” the experience, unable to fully recognize it as memory and not something that is happening in “real time”.
In that situation I used the tapping exercise. http://www.impactministries.com/bible-based-eft/ There are different techniques that I have used over the years to help bring me back to peace. Techniques such as tapping or yoga stretches, music. One could say food is a form of comfort or drugs and alcohol are some other ways people use to quell negative emotions.
Tapping has a Chinese origin and is based on the different meridian points on the body. Tapping those meridian points while speaking will have an effect of disrupting the negative emotion that is exhibited. Then on the second time tapping the meridian points – one speaks some positive truth to replace the emotion. Finally, the third time, speaking some encouraging truth. In my case, tapping allowed me to disrupt the negative, replace and reintroduce positive truth which I had momentarily forgotten.
The intention is always to come back to peace and so my time in Centering meditation is not overwhelmed or scattered by the strong emotion. When stuff happens, as it inevitably will from time to time, consider it a wonderful chance to learn more about yourself, and be happy, thankful and grateful that you can deal with the immediate emotional state through many awesome healing techniques that are available. Then you can get back to Centering Meditation.